Build Your Social Resilience
Would you like to build your social resilience?
Published on March 6, 2010
Resilience as a property of a substance refers to its ability to recoil or
spring back into shape after bending, stretching, or being compressed. People
can also be more or less resilient, and in this context resilience refers to a
person's ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. Most
people think about a person's resilience as a capacity that, akin to
intelligence or musical talent, does not vary substantially across contexts.
This view is odd given that the resilience of substances can vary a great deal
across contexts. For instance, water in a warm environment (i.e., when it is in
a liquid state) is much more resilient than water in a frozen environment (i.e.,
when it is in the solid state of ice).
Similarly, an individual's resilience can vary dramatically as a function of the
social context. Alex Zautra of Arizona State University, Harry Reis of
University of Rochester, and I have written recently about social resilience as
an inherently multi-level construct, revealed by capacities of individuals and
groups to foster, engage in, and sustain positive social relationships and to
endure and recover from stressors and social isolation. Emergent levels of
organization, ranging from dyads, families, and groups to cities, civilizations,
and international alliances have long been apparent in human existence, but
identifying the features of individuals, relationships, and group structures and
norms that promote social resilience remains an most important challenge for the
behavioral sciences. Given the market collapse of 2008, it is at least as
important a question for economic science to address, as well.
Social resilience is more than fulfilling friendships and the comfortable
exchange of ideas. Although trust is essential, social resilience is not
equivalent to warm hugs, unconditional positive regard, and anti-competition
sentiments. Both science and the Olympics rest on competition as well as
cooperation, both involve intense training and criticism, and both enterprises
are high in social resilience.
Social resilience recognizes that, as a social species, we work, think, and
excel as groups/teams as well as individuals. Wolves and lions hunt in teams,
and by doing so they are able to bring down prey that would be impossible to
conquer alone. Human civilizations rest on the specialization, differentiation,
and orchestration of human expertise so that we, as a collective, can achieve
more than we could by our solitary efforts. Social resilience is an emergent
(but not a magical) property. People who have diverse interests, skills, and
resources and who can work together make it more likely the group as a whole can
respond adaptively to unforeseen problems and challenges. The functions each
person serves in such adverse circumstances may not be defined a priori by the
knowledge or "skills" of the individuals per se. Instead, how these individuals
are combined can fundamentally change the capacities/functions the group can
achieve to address a novel challenge. When individuals feel rejected, isolated,
distrusted, devalued, or simply disliked, they cannot work effectively as part
of the unit, and they are less likely to adapt creatively as a unit as required
by the challenges they confront.
Socially resilient individuals value diverse perspectives and recognize that
many tasks require coordination among persons with differing backgrounds,
values, and priorities. A professional football team would have little chance of
success if all their team members possessed identical features and skills.
Social resilience implies not merely acceptance of diversity, but rather the
intention to incorporate diverse perspectives into group activity for the
creative adaptations that such diversity predisposes. Non-resilient persons seek
to eliminate diversity by excluding individuals who differ or by accentuating
pressures toward uniformity. Surrounding oneself with a lot of mini-me-s can be
self-affirming but it does little to help one adapt to new challenges and
problems or to withstand or recover quickly from very difficult conditions.
People are not unique in this regard. Homogenous gene pools are at greater risk
than their heterogeneous counterparts for extinction when exposed to new
environmental challenges.
The implications of this point should not be lost on those who use the internet
to find and surround themselves only with "like-minded others."
Core to social resilience, then, is an inclusion of diverse others, an
acceptance and attention to others, mutual respect and care for others, and a
responsiveness to others. A simple touch can provide connection and promote
cohesion. For instance, one study show that people who received a supportive
touch were nearly twice as likely to volunteer in class than those who did not,
and another shows that a sympathetic touch by a doctor leads to the impression
by patients that the doctor spent nearly twice as long with them.
To find out what people think about how to build social resilience, I posted the
question on Twitter and Facebook. I thank all those who responded to this
posting. The responses as a whole were encouragingly consistent with what our
(limited) science on the topic suggests should promote social resilience. The
following is a sample of those I received:
Share homemade baking goods with your neighbors.
Mail a "thinking of you" card to a friend, with a handwritten message.
Give a friend a gift of an experience rather than a material object. Better yet,
give him or her a pair of tickets so you give them a shared experience.
Speak to the interests of others, and then speak about what you have in common
to identify the sweet spot of mutual benefit. Speaking about your own interests
is best done in the context of what interests them.
Take people out of their ordinary environments and gather someplace beautiful to
lower interpersonal barriers and to promote openness, creativity, and
productivity.