作 者：Wendy BeharyDISARMING THE NARCISSIST: SURVIVING AND THRIVING WITH THE SELF-ABSORBED
解除自恋：运用自我专注获得生存与发展
Book ID/图书代码：09700007B17539
页数： 156
定价： 14.95美元
English Summary/英文概要：
What can you do with the narcissistic people in your life? They’re frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. But sometimes you genuinely care for one of them. And you might need to interact with others in social or professional settings. Sometimes it doesn’t won’t work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while sidestepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments.This book offers several strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the centre of his or her own universe. Readers will learn how to move past the narcissist’s defences with compassionate, empathetic communication. They’ll learn to understand the worldview and coping styles of narcissists and why it’s often sad and lonely to be a narcissist. By anticipating and avoiding certain hot-button issues, readers will discover ways to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, readers will find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.
About the Author/作者介绍：
Wendy Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and couples therapy.
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目录
Praise for the first edition 对初版的赞美
Contents 内容
Foreword 序言
Preface 前言
Acknowledgments 致谢
Introduction 引言
An Era of Narcissism 自恋的时代
The Wisdom of Empathy 共情的智慧
Indelible Imprints 不可磨灭的印记
Pivotal Influences 关键的影响
Shared Wisdom 共享智慧
1 Framing the Situation: Toward an Understanding of Narcissism 建构情境：对自恋的理解
The Narcissist at a Glance 一目了然的自恋者
What Is a Narcissist? 什么是自恋？
Origins of Narcissism 自恋的起源
The Magician: Disappearing When It’s Time to Focus on You魔术师：当你集中注意力的时候就消失了。
Hiding Behind the Armor of Coping Modes躲在应对方式的盔甲后面
The Narcissist’s Strategy for Dealing with Unmet Needs处理未满足需求的自恋者的策略
Covert Narcissism隐性自恋
The Difference between Male and Female Narcissists 男性和女性的自恋者的区别
Healthy Narcissism健康的自恋
Conclusion结论
2 Understanding the Anatomy of Personality: Schemas and the Brain理解人格的剖析：图式和大脑
Cognitive Therapy认知疗法
Schema Therapy图式疗法
Foundations of Security: Biology and Attachment安全基础：生物学与依恋
Connecting the Dots连接点
Conclusion结论
3 Getting Captured: Identifying Your Personal Traps被捕获：识别你的个人陷阱
Comfort Zones: The Challenges of Living with and Changing Your Habits舒适区：生活与改变习惯的挑战
Why the Narcissist Triggers You为什么自恋者触发了你
Developing an Authentic Voice发展真实的声音
A Game of Collusion共谋游戏
Hope Springs Eternal: The Capacity to Learn and Change希望永恒：学习和改变的能力
Conclusion结论
4 Overcoming the Obstacles: Communication Pitfalls, Snags, and Glitches克服障碍：沟通的陷阱，障碍，和故障
Four Stages of Transformation转型的四个阶段
Cues and Clues: Knowing Why You Get Triggered提示与线索：知道你为什么被触发
Making Sense of Our Senses: Messages from the Brain and Body感知我们的感官：来自大脑和身体的信息
Charmed and Disarmed着迷与消解
Beyond Fight, Flight, or Freeze超越战斗、逃跑或僵动
Conclusion结论
5 Paying Attention: Facing Difficult Encounters with a Narcissist注意：面对与自恋狂的不同遭遇
Breaking Free from Your Mechanical Habits摆脱你的机械习惯
The Power of Mindful Awareness正念意识的力量
The Importance of Practice实践的重要性
How Mindfulness Helps You Interact with the Narcissist正念如何互动可以帮助你与自恋者
The Rewards of Mindfulness正念的回报
The Four Most Common Masks of the Narcissist and How to Deal with Them自恋者最常见的四种面具和如何处理它们
Conclusion结论
6 Making an Exit: Escaping Perilous Narcissism走出困境：逃离危险的自恋
Identifying Perilous Narcissism识别危险的自恋
Excuses, Excuses借口，借口
Drawing the Line画线
Deciding Whether to Stay or Go决定是留下还是走
Reforming the Moderate Narcissist改革中的自恋者
Conclusion结论
7 Using Empathic Confrontation: A Winning Strategy for Interpersonal Effectiveness使用共情对峙：人际效能的制胜策略
Distinguishing between Empathy and Compassion区分共情和悲悯
Feeling “Felt”感受“感觉”
A Brief Look at the Science of Empathy科学共情简论
Mirroring the Other镜映他者
Under His Skin体贴入微
Keeping the Narcissist on the Hook勾住自恋者
Creating Leverage for Change为改变创造杠杆
The Role of Empathy in the Therapeutic Relationship共情在治疗关系中的作用
Conclusion结论
8 Making the Most of a Difficult Situation: Seven Gifts of Communication with a Narcissist在最困难的局面：与自恋者沟通七个礼物
Harnessing the Force利用力
Presenting Your Gifts呈现你的礼物
The Seven Gifts七件礼物
Conclusion结论
Resources资源
Organizations组织
Recommended Reading推荐阅读
References参考文献
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